The day I became the mother of a ten-year old

Billy and Bella

Today is April, 19 - Billy's birthday. I didn't give birth to him, but I became his mother on February 28, 1998. The funny thing is...he looks more like me than my other sons. Actually Billy and Justin look like blood brothers. When David and I first married and went places with the kids, people would ask me if they were twins. I would laugh and tell them that the boys were not twins...they were 8 months apart. Needless to say, I would get strange looks as that they tried to figure out how I did that.

Billy and I had some difficulties at the beginning of our relationship. He liked junk and fast food, so if he didn't like what I fixed, he had the option of going hungry. He did....for a little while. Then, he began to try things, and found he liked most of what I fixed. Now, I don't think there is anything that boy won't eat. There were some trust issues because of his mother. I tried to teach him the difference between closeness and respect.

After Billy learned the rules of the house and the "flow" of the family, he fit right in. He and Justin were close...no, I mean really, they shared at bedroom. It was like watching The Odd Couple ( that's an old tv show, kids). Justin neat and particular, and Billy more, uh, let's say easygoing and carefree.

The poor child went from being an only child to being a middle child of 4. Then came Emma, whom Billy adored. He didn't mind not being the center of attention. He never complained about much of anything, and got along with everyone. He played awesome football and basketball, and made A's in school.

Somewhere along the line, I forgot that he wasn't born to me. When I'm asked how children I have, I reply that I have five. I love Billy like he is my own son, because he is. I am not going to abandon him or intentionally hurt him in any way. God gave him to me to care for and love, and I do. I'm proud of what he is doing in his life, but it is not the basis of my affection. I love him simply for who he is, not what he does.

My little Billy is about to be married in a month and a half. He has done a great job picking his life partner. I am so thankful he is going to be close by, so I can see him. I'm still wanting our relationship to grow as mother and son. I want to be here the rest of his life to help him when he needs it, give advice, know his children, become a mother to Rachel.

Thank You, Lord for my son, Billy. Guide and keep him through his life. Speak to him with your Spirit about the decisions he needs to make. Lord, be the center of his and Rachel's marriage and bless them. I love you, Jesus, and thank you for the blessings of my family. You are so good.